We need to learn to handle misunderstanding. Trying to put right everyone's misunderstanding on you is futile.
When we observe an event, we try to find out its causes. There are many possibilities. We choose an explanation that is most consistent with our other observations and our existing belief. Thus, wrong beliefs can easily be reinforced. The chance of getting it right can't be very high.
To fully understand someone, one has to understand his/her premises and his logic. Getting any of these wrong will lead to wrong conclusions. It is rather unlikely to get them all correct. To start, one may not know all the premises -- they are sometimes referred to as hidden agenda. The task is made even harder if the person that one attempts to understand doesn't use logic. That happens more often than one might expect.
Some of us feel bad when we are misunderstood. Some of us feel only right to find out the truth. Given the stringent conditions of understanding, being understoon is a rare thing. Finding out someone's intentions is more difficult, as they might intentionally conceal it. Life is too short for putting every point across and putting every record right.
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